yes you can find true love on IRC

Scrawny1 · none Joined: 28 Feb 2004 Posts: 3

I'm a firm believer in true love on the internet whereas I never was untill I met my girlfriend, I live in Ontario Canada and she lives (for now) in Austrailia, and we've never been happier Very Happy

uchat · Idler Joined: 17 Mar 2004 Posts: 335

Hell that's nothing .. I live in the USA and only God knows where my ex-wife is ... and we couldn't be happier! Razz

britney · none Joined: 24 May 2004 Posts: 1

uchat · Idler Joined: 17 Mar 2004 Posts: 335

funny but true ... and we did NOT meet online. To be honest I believe that online relationships have a better chance of lasting that non-online relationships if fo no other reason that you can get to know the person on the inside before ever seeing the outside.

JackJumper · none Joined: 12 May 2004 Posts: 6

Bobo · Guest

Hrmmm well just to put a downer on this thread Razz

I met some chick we got on great and it was all good for about a year. Somethings seemed off about her over the year. Anyways we went our seperate ways... although a lot of stuff seemed very strange. Other people who had known her longer told me some stuff damn it was weird.

Anyways I was fairly lost to it all. Went to her email provider, typed in her mail and 1 attempted password just thinking what the heck.... didnt wait for it to load just went onto my other active browsers. Clicked that browser window about 30 minutes later and what do I see ?

Yup... I'm in the account. Of course I know this was wrong and so on... but I did find out one thing. Something was wrong lol

She had about 9 other people in the same sort of situation making claims of love. Had told them different stories about her life(What she was etc.) and many other things like that.

Just remember the things you dont know you will fill subconciously and you will never fill them with bad details but rather with good Smile

uchat · Idler Joined: 17 Mar 2004 Posts: 335

This don't only happen in online relationships .. there are weirdos everywhere.

codemastr · Idler Joined: 05 Feb 2004 Posts: 353

uchat · Idler Joined: 17 Mar 2004 Posts: 335

everything has it's pros and cons.

in real life you get the girl home and find she's a he or has HIV or something.

codemastr · Idler Joined: 05 Feb 2004 Posts: 353

Yeah well online doesn't solve any of that. Presumably, you intend to meet the person in real life one day. So all online dating does is add another layer of problems, not replace the existing problems.

Barbie · none Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 4

It doesn't matter if you're looking for love on or offline, the julie in real life could be everything you've ever wanted until you find out she used to be a man with a wife and eight kids.
I have been with my current boyfriend for 7 months now, and I truly beleive we have future potential. I have learned so much from this relationship. I know that it's not what people look like anymore.

I think the thing that hurts the most about irc relationships is the touch factor.. I miss being kissed.

JackJumper · none Joined: 12 May 2004 Posts: 6

Everything that has been said here is true. There really is no guarantee over the internet. I would hope that most people would invoke some sort of phone conversation before meeting and also more than one meeting before dedicating a true portion of your life or your love to this person. I do have to admit I have had a bad relationship or two in the past both online and in real life.

Good luck everyone!!!!

Howard · none Joined: 16 Nov 2003 Posts: 34

Well, I've just passed the 20-year mark online, naturally a good bit of that time was pre-irc.

I've seen relationships develop, and come crashing apart on one kind of rock or another.

I've also seen a lot of relationships develop, blossom, and mature.

All things considered, the chances of the latter are marginally higher for relationships that didn't start online - but only *marginally* higher. When good people find other good people, and 'click' it doesn't matter where the first contact came.

The margin comes from being more able to tell the good people from the twits earlier on in a purely face-to-face relationship. The key word there is 'more able', because even face-to-face the discrimination is far from perfect.

codemastr · Idler Joined: 05 Feb 2004 Posts: 353

Just an example, I knew this girl on IRC who I talked to for a couple years. I even had her phone number and I had talked to her over the phone. This wasn't an IRC dating, just a friend. A few months back, someone discovered there were these nude pictures of her on a website. It didn't throw up too many flags. I'm sure there are many girls I know who've taken nude pics. But, the other day, I got a spam email. Wouldn't you know it, the email contains a webcam sex site with the girl I had been talking to all this time. Now at this point, I became rather skeptical. And it became time to do a little research. So I started searching on Google, as it turned out, the "screen name" mentioned in the spam mail was quite a common result on Google. Each one turning up more pics.

Now, the "info" listed for this girl on these sites didn't match up with what she told me. But, that's not too odd, I'm sure every porn site in existence lies about their models. But, without getting into details, the photos I found didn't match up with things she had said. So I started to really doubt this. But, the thing was, I managed to find other things that did go along with her story. First off, it's not like she was sending me nude pics. The pics were of things that I doubt someone would put on a porn site.
I also managed to find some things that didn't seem like a porn star would put on the internet. Like family photos and stuff.

So at this point, I decided to do some real sleuting, rather than relying on Google. I managed to trace the phone number I was given, and indeed, it did match up with the address I was given. I also happened to know that the girl was in the US on a visa. So, I made a few phone calls to some people I know, and I discovered, yes, the person with the name I was given was in the US for the reasons she gave. So now, it started to seem like she was telling the truth. So I started to think I was just paranoid.

I still have no idea whether it was really her or not. Or whether she is just one fantastic conartist. But the thing is, when I meet a girl offline, I never have to wonder "is this really a picture of her?" Because I'm seeing her in the flesh, not as a picture that anyone can send.